Today should be my 12th wedding anniversary 💍 from my first marriage.

Instead I was divorced before the age of 30.

I had the fairytale wedding. Country house in the Lake District, surrounded by friends and family, ceilidh until 4am…

But 4 months in, I’d asked for a divorce.

You see, waiting to walk down the aisle, holding on to my dad’s arm, I’d had a flash of clarity, “this isn’t the last time I’ll do this”

And yet I went through with it. Because it was all great on paper. He ticked all the boxes, we got on great, we liked each other’s families.

But deep down I knew it wasn’t right.

And one day I was brave enough to admit I wanted more from my life that just “that’ll do”.

Asking for a divorce was horrific. It caused a lot of hurt, and anger, and judgement - the ripple effects of which are still felt throughout my family today.

But it was the start of my authenticity journey, and has led to the creation of the pinch-me-I-can’t-believe-this-is-real life I lead today.

I’m now happily remarried to a man who lights me up in every single way it’s possible to be lit up in a marriage. We’ve had 2 more kids, run a business together and are just embarking on a new chapter of camper van adventures together (aka the Money Pit).

And my ex is happily remarried too, to a good friend of mine who was at that first wedding (!)

If this tale has resonated with you, my question to you is this: where are you settling for what you think is available to you? Where are you compromising the desires of your wild heart? Do you really want to reach old age, look back and think, ‘what if’?




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